On sex…
A Dating Coach on sex…
Before I go on, please know…I am not a saint.
I have made MANY mistakes when it comes to the topic of sex.
In fact, I’ll repost tomorrow the post where I talked about sleeping with two men in one day 👀
Also know that this post is INTENDED to bring up unresolved stuff in YOU….
So, notice when you feel like your choices need defending.
Notice the strong & loud parts of you speaking up.
Notice the parts of you saying that you can handle sex no problem.
My intention as your coach is NEVER to tell you what you should do or how you should be in your dating life.
It is my gift to help you find YOUR true expression, YOUR true voice, & YOUR true SELF so that you can have an epic, magnetic relationship - THAT IS ALL.
This is what I’ve learned in my epic love journey & the BIG ahas I’ve had in the last year calling in the most amazing man I’ve ever met in my life. I went through these things to teach them, so here I am.
1.) Sex confuses things.
No matter how much you tell yourself that you’re not looking for a relationship.
No matter how much you tell yourself that you just want to have fun.
You can shut that down for a minute, but if you’re having sex & an unhealed part of you gets attached, it’s OV & anxiety & overwhelm set in, your nervous system goes whack, & soon enough you’re carried away with overthinking, confusion, & anger.
2.) It’s more than sex.
I’m not a scientist, in fact, I have no degrees or coaching certificates other than my lived experience in healing & coaching women to do the same. (Shout out to my Masters’ Degree in Sports Marketing & Management LOL).
When we have sex, especially as women, our hormones go out of control.
The dopamine hits when our efforts to find love & connection through sex flood our systems.
The oxytocin explodes urging us to bond to our mate (this is a survival response from the cave man days).
The serotonin is prob. there too.
And who knows what else…
This chemical mix feels great in the moment, but to put it bluntly, it is like a drug.
This is why you will seek sex out or have porous boundaries around sex because your survival brain will OVERRIDE your rational brain.
Withdrawing from sex can literally be like withdrawing from heroin.
I’m sitting on points 3, 4, 5, & 6 - gonna take a break & I want to hear what you think, what you struggle with, what’s unclear & what makes you mad. Add them to the comments & I’ll post about them this week. 👇
Ya’ll, this is important to me, so I’m gonna take my time.
❤️Lil
P.S. Take the Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz to reveal your blocks to love & find your true love match.
