How to feel wanted when you’re dating

The plague of successful & smart women feeling unwanted is reaching mass proportions & no one is talking about it.

No one is talking about being on the dating scene & feeling UNsuccessful.

Being on the dating scene & losing hope.

What happens when everyone you know tells you you’re a “great catch,” but you can’t seem to find that last puzzle piece in your already successful life?

Finding true love is not about what you think or what you know.

Or even what you do.

Contrary to popular opinion, you can’t read your way, or podcast your way, or identify your attachment style to find an epic love relationship.

Feeling unwanted is not healed by more self-love - yes, I said it.

Why? Because many of us use OTHER PEOPLE’s definitions of self-love & try to pass it off as our own.

This doesn’t work.

There are unhealed parts of you, yes from your past, who are running your dating show.

Those men that ghost you, those men that are emotionally unavailable, & that anxiety you feel ALL COME directly from a ROOT CAUSE issue that hasn’t been healed……yet.

And while you may read this & say, “Lilli, that’s not my fault.”

I would lovingly say that, “Yes, it’s on you.”

It’s on you to be open to something different than what you already know.

It's on you to heal at the root.

The aligned energy, thoughts, behaviors, & actions that YOU bring to dating is HOW you find true love.

Specifically, here’s a pointer:

Decide on & embody your concrete dating filters & guidelines for less pressure & more fun.

This is not “your type.”

This is not communication or honesty.

This is not even the long list of qualities that you’ve written out ad nauseam.

This is an exploration into how you want to FEEL during the process.

And what actions & behaviors can you embody & observe from him so that you know that you're on the right path.

For example, one of my personal dating filters is that he is actively pursuing his life’s purpose & life’s mission.

This type of man will gel well with me because we are both on purpose.

We have larger visions & dreams & we are not looking for our relationship to complete us - only to enhance our fulfillment, experience, & connection.

This is mine & doesn’t have to be yours, but when you get crystal clear on that - you will begin to know IMMEDIATELY who to let go of & who to keep around (at least for the time being 😉).

When I say, immediately, I mean within 2-3 days instead of 2-3 months.

So, instead of internally wishing desperately that someone wants you, you can set up your dating life to be WANTED, all because of your clarity - & the way you are clearly expressing it.

This doesn’t happen instantly, but with consistent practice, you will see up-leveled matches in the time it takes Amazon to deliver your next self-help book!

This is exactly what we do together in my 5-Month 1:1 Coaching Program, we work on your personal dating filters & guidelines that are unique to you.

I help smart women go from single & successful to epic love in 5 months.

In this container, we will also work on:

The anxiety you feel when you’re waiting for “it’ll happen when you least expect it” to come true.

The connection to your true & highest self for lining up what you know to do & what you ACTUALLY do.

The confidence to hold your boundaries & speak your truth while you’re going through the process of finding your soul mate.

DM me on Instagram if you’re interested & we’ll have a super quick chat over messenger to see if it’s a right fit for you.

In big love,

❤️Lilli