How to stop the delete & download cycle on the apps
The dating apps can be a godsend or it can be a living hell.
I’ve experienced both.
“Just get out there.”
“Just have fun.”
“Make sure you say the right things.”
“There are many fish in the sea.”
This is all bunk advice that you get from your well-meaning friends, family, & the coaches you follow on IG.
That’s all well & good until you’re actually out there going on dates: wasting your time, wasting your energy, & eventually losing hope & saying “eff it” & deleting…..again.
You can have the best strategies.
You can read all of the books on communication.
You can read “How to Do the Work” & try to heal on your own.
But, when you can’t stop the overthinking, when you always “self-sabotage, “ & when you wall up your heart so it can’t be hurt anymore - it feels horrible.
Let’s apply what you’ve read about IFS (Internal Family Systems for the noobs.)?
Here’s how it applies to dating - & this is GREAT NEWS!
You think that it IS YOU that is choosing your dating partners - the emotionally unavailable men, the men that won’t commit, & that won’t lead.
THAT ISN’T TRUE!
If you’re seeing self-sabotaging & self-defeating patterns in your dating life, it’s NOT YOU that is choosing them - it is just a PART of YOU that hasn’t HEALED yet. 😓
So, you have a choice - continue to do the same thing again & again until you either GIVE UP or you RESIGN hope of finding true love OR heal those parts of you.
When you heal those parts of you, you love dating.
Dating as alignment.
Dating as fulfillment.
Dating as fun.
That energy brings in your KING, your true love, & your soul mate match.
I never knew I had choice until I figured this out - this is my gift to you. 😘
In big love,
❤️Lilli
P.S. Do you want to eliminate the fear of being abandoned or being alone so you can find your epic love? Take the Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz to reveal your blocks to love & find your true love match.
