What I learned about boys in high school

Freshman year of high school was when I started to learn about boys.

This is what I knew: nothing.

All I knew was soccer & school.
I knew achievement, work hard, get rewarded.
Achievement, work hard, get rewarded.
Achievement, work hard, get rewarded.

The washing machine cycle of achievement left me with a tank that always needed refreshing.
When it felt empty, I would just do more & do better.
I one upped myself on the regular.

Freshman year, I learned that boys could fill up my love tank too.
I don’t remember if I ever had “THE TALK” at home.

So, I learned from Disney.
I learned from Pretty Woman.
And I learned from Basic Instinct.

Disney, I learned self-sacrifice.
Pretty Woman, I Iearned of the white night (or white limo).
Basic Instinct, I learned to be sexy.

So, I did.

I’ve always had a big heart.
Always.

Because I didn’t learn the difference between my intuition & a “red flag” & because I didn’t know that I could ever say No, I said yes to people entering into my heart-space that didn’t belong there.

All because I didn’t know how.

Finding love & welcoming an emotionally available man in your life is as much as skillset as is basketball, as is the degrees & certifications you worked so hard to get, & as is driving a car.

Healing is how you hone the skill of welcoming your true love.
Healing is how you come back to your intuition.
Healing is how you change.
Healing within support is how you change quickly.

That’s the sum up of decades of pain & suffering. That’s my gift to you & THAT is the key.

Heal, queen, & find your true love.

In big love,
Lilli

P.S. If you’re ready to start trusting your intuition so you can know IMMEDIATELY whether he is right for you or not, start with the Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz to find out what you’re Feminine Dating Archetype is & tag me #femdatingarchetype on IG with your result!