“Settling” is a myth

I’m convinced that the idea of “settling” is a myth.

Here’s why: 

your value & your worth is NEVER defined by a relationship.

Although well meaning & friends & well meaning parts of us will say: “You’re settling.” or “You deserve better.” 

I believe the deeper question is, am I looking for perfection?

The human experience, especially the dating experience is messy af.

You WILL make mistakes.

He WILL make mistakes.

To other people, “settling” is an outside phenomenon - to me, it’s a look at what’s going on inside of you.

If you’re questioning yourself on whether or not you are “settling,” take a look within yourSELF & ask:

Are my thoughts, behaviors, & actions aligned with my values?

Has my Highest Self been leading my dating life, or a wounded part of me?

When have I not spoken up when I really should have?

Get curious, ask those first.

Release the judgment from others.

Release the judgment from yourself.

And follow your internal experience.

Your answer lies within that space that you lovingly create inside of yourself.

“Settling” is a judgment.

Love is a process.

In big love,

❤️Lilli

P.S. Take the Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz to reveal your blocks to love & find your true love match.