The problem with “Stop Emasculating Men”

If you find yourself emasculating men, ask yourself, do you feel safe inside yourSELF?

Do you feel grounded & whole?

Or do you feel overwhelmed, anxious, confused or closed off?

I’ll be real, it worries me when coaches, teachers, or gurus say, “Stop emasculating men.”

While, on the surface, I believe that’s true, it’s an incomplete & almost dangerous assessment of how you relate to men.

If you’re not careful, you can start to feel a whole lot of shame & blame all directed towards yourSELF because you are “doing it wrong.”

And enough of that inner conflict & your whole life story becomes how you keep fn up - including your intimate relationships.

You…

Don’t trust men.

Have been in unsafe relationships (or still are).

Have been modeled a chaotic or angry male figure throughout your life.

Have had to carry the burdens of others & yourself for as long as you remember.

When dating, frequently feel frustrated & confused.

Really, emasculating men is a protective mechanism through which you have VERY SMARTLY adapted to live & survive.

Go you!

The healing work here is to get back in your body through deep emotional healing.

To come back into safety within yourSELF.

To slow down & listen to your body & the cues it’s sending you - esp. while dating.

To start to understand & welcome your emotions.

If emasculating men is a protective mechanism for you, imagine how it would feel to be vulnerable AND safe.

That’s how it feels when you meet your epic love, but only if you feel that way inside yourSELF first.

That’s hoe you love dating & find true love.

In big love

❤️Lilli

P.S. Take the Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz to reveal your blocks to love & find your true love match.