Why it’s hard to ask for help
Here’s why it’s hard to ask for help….
Either:
You’ve been through a lot of $%^ in your life & you’ve had to do everything on your own. You carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.
Your past experiences have shown you that you can’t trust people.
Or both:
The combined experience has lead you to believe that you are better off on your own.
I have had to go through some MAJOR healing work to learn how to safely ask for help.
Here’s the one tip I have: Learn WHO to ask for help FROM.
To tie this back to dating, learning WHO to date is the sauce.
It’s not about honesty & communication - it’s about WHO you choose to be honest & communicate WITH.
Here’s where it gets messy…
If you’re constantly saying to yourself,
“I want an emotionally available man.”
“Why do I attract unhealthy partners?”
“I have a bad picker.”
What I want you to know is it is not YOU (aka, your higher self, your true self) that are picking the men you are dating.
A wounded part of you is picking him.
A wounded part of you is saying “yes” when you mean “no.”
A wounded part of you is calling out for love & connection.
It’s not you that’s picking - it’s just a part of you that is BEGGING for you to heal it.
When you heal that part of you, you learn quickly who is right for you & who is not.
You tune in to your intuition.
You set boundaries & stick with them.
Heal & be seen.
Heal & be heard.
In big love,
❤️Lilli
P.S. Take the Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz to reveal your blocks to love & find your true love match.
