With hindsight being 20/20 & all, I’ve realized that pretty much my whole life, people have been unsafe for me.

I have always had a big, open heart.

In the past, I have trusted quickly.

Trusted big.

& opened up my sacred heart space to anyone that seemed like they were good people.

You closing your heart - it makes sense.

You being so damn strong - it makes sense.

You relying on your horoscope - it makes sense.

You loving your animals & that’s pretty much it - it makes sense.

You unable to open your heart to another human being - it makes sense.

Why men leave you…

It’s not what you think.

It’s not because you said the wrong thing.

It’s not because you are too much.

It’s not because everything is wrong with them & nothing is wrong with you.

If you find yourself emasculating men, ask yourself, do you feel safe inside yourSELF?

Do you feel grounded & whole?

Or do you feel overwhelmed, anxious, confused or closed off?

I’m convinced that the idea of “settling” is a myth.

Here’s why:

your value & your worth is NEVER defined by a relationship.

Here’s why it’s hard to ask for help….

Either:

1. You’ve been through a lot of $%^ in your life & you’ve had to do everything on your own. You carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.

2. Your past experiences have shown you that you can’t trust people.

It’s not that you can’t trust yourself in love (even though it feels like it).

It’s really about the internal war inside of you when you know what’s good for you or what you should be doing better, yet you can’t seem to do it, say, or be it in in real life.

You don’t know it all, even though you think you do.

There’s an interesting thing that happens when you’ve done a lot of healing work on yourself.

“I’m bad at relationships” is the story I used to tell myself.

I always felt missed.

Unseen.

Unheard.

And, ultimately, unloved.

What is a Polyvagal-Informed Approach to Dating?

The acknowledgment, deep reverence, & understanding of your Nervous System when it comes to the dating process.

One of my teachers, Mastin Kipp, once said, “Story follow state.”

Basically what that means is, is the anxiety, overwhelm, depression, anger, frustration, withdrawal, & overthinking that accompany your dating process makes a lot of sense.